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People with a High Level of Self-Respect (SR) Never Tolerate these 9 Behaviors

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Self-Respect is an act of love (not ego)
Self-Respect is an act of love (not ego)


Let’s talk about self-respect (SR for short)—a crucial element for every coach, both in business and in life. As we navigate our work, we encounter both ideal clients and not-so-ideal clients (this applies to personal relationships, too). Instead of feeling frustrated or disappointed, it's essential to take a step back and reflect on how we’re allowing others to treat us—from a place of accountability.

While we can’t control others’ behavior, we can set clear boundaries that communicate what we will and will not tolerate. Establishing and maintaining these boundaries is an act of self-respect, and it sets the tone for how others engage with us.

In this article, you'll find insights from Lachlan Brown, along with the “Lucid POV” approach—an empowering perspective to help you stay centered when faced with individuals who may not respect your boundaries. By integrating these strategies, you can navigate challenging relationships with confidence and clarity. Text from Original Article (with no ads): There’s a stark difference between respecting yourself and letting people walk all over you. It all boils down to the behaviors you’re willing to tolerate from others.

Having a high level of SR means setting boundaries and sticking to them, no matter who tries to cross them. 

It’s about knowing your worth and never settling for less. And those with genuine self-respect understand there are certain behaviors they just won’t accept from others.

In this article, we’ll explore the 9 behaviors that people with strong SR never tolerate. 

Let’s get started.

1) Disrespectful language

Self-respect is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. And language plays a significant role in how we perceive and conduct relationships.

People with high SR never tolerate disrespectful language directed at them. It’s a clear violation of their personal boundaries.

Disrespect can come in many forms – from name-calling to sarcasm, to belittling comments. But no matter the form, it’s never acceptable.

Remember, self-respect means understanding your worth and refusing to let others treat you poorly.

If someone continually uses disrespectful language towards you, it’s a clear sign they don’t value you as they should.

Standing up against disrespectful language is a powerful way of asserting your SR and setting the standard for how others should treat you. 

 

2) Being taken for granted

Another behavior that people with high SR don’t tolerate is being taken for granted. Let me share a personal example.

A few years back, I was part of a team at work where I found myself always being the one to take on extra tasks. The reason was simple – I was good at what I did and I never said no.

But over time, I noticed my colleagues started to take my willingness to help for granted. They’d dump their tasks on me, assuming I’d handle them without complaint. It felt as though my hard work and dedication were being exploited, instead of appreciated.

I realized this was a direct hit to my self-respect. And so, I decided to take a stand.

I started setting boundaries, making it clear that while I was happy to help when needed, it wasn’t my responsibility to carry everyone else’s workload.

It wasn’t easy, but it taught me a valuable lesson – never let anyone take you for granted. People with high self-respect know their worth and ensure others recognize it too.

 

3) Emotional manipulation

Emotional manipulation is a tactic that people with high SR refuse to tolerate. It’s a covert way of using emotions to control another person, and it’s far more common than you might think.

A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that over a third of people have experienced emotional manipulation in one form or another.

From guilt trips to gaslighting, emotional manipulation can take many forms. But the end goal is always the same – to control and dominate.

People with high self-respect recognize these tactics and refuse to be swayed by them. They understand that emotional manipulation is not only unhealthy, but it’s also a clear sign of disrespect. 

No one should have their emotions played with. So remember, if you respect yourself, never allow anyone to manipulate your feelings.

 

4) Neglect of personal boundaries

One surefire sign of self-respect is the establishment and maintenance of personal boundaries. These boundaries are a clear reflection of how we expect to be treated and what we are comfortable with.

People who respect themselves never allow others to ignore or overstep these boundaries. Whether it’s about personal space, time, or emotional well-being, each boundary is a non-negotiable aspect of their lives.

Ignoring these boundaries is a blatant sign of disrespect and disregard for the person’s autonomy and self-worth. Those with high SR swiftly address such issues and ensure their boundaries are respected.

5) Continual criticism

Constructive criticism is essential for growth, but there’s a vast difference between helpful critique and continual criticism. The latter is something people with high SR never tolerate.

Continual criticism, especially when it’s unprovoked or unnecessary, can be a form of verbal abuse. It serves no purpose other than to belittle and demean the person on the receiving end.

Those with a high level of SR understand their worth and refuse to let anyone chip away at their self-esteem through constant criticism. They distinguish between useful feedback and harmful criticism and reject the latter outright.

6) Lack of empathy

At the heart of any positive interaction or relationship is empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Without it, connections become shallow and unfulfilling.

People with high self-respect recognize the importance of empathy in their interactions. They never tolerate a lack of empathy from those around them.

When someone fails to show empathy, it feels like a dismissal of your feelings and experiences. It’s a cold indifference that people with high self-respect find hard to accept.

Because at the end of the day, we all want to feel heard, understood, and appreciated.

 

7) Dishonesty

Honesty is the foundation of any relationship, be it professional or personal. It’s a principle that people with high self-respect hold dear.

I learned this lesson the hard way. A while back, I trusted a close friend with a secret. I assumed our bond was strong enough to handle it. But I was wrong. The secret was out before I knew it, and the trust I had for my friend shattered instantly.

That incident taught me a valuable lesson. Dishonesty hurts. It’s a betrayal that shakes your faith in people and leaves a sour taste in your mouth.

People with high self-respect value honesty and integrity above all else. They understand that trust, once broken, is hard to rebuild. Therefore, they never tolerate dishonesty from others.

 

8) Dismissal of your accomplishments

Everyone deserves to be recognized for their achievements. It’s a feeling that validates our hard work and boosts our self-esteem. However, some people tend to dismiss or downplay others’ accomplishments.

People with high SR never tolerate such behavior. They understand the effort and dedication behind every achievement, big or small.

When someone dismisses your accomplishments, it’s as if they’re invalidating your efforts. It can feel like a punch to the gut, especially when it comes from someone you care about.

But those with high SR won’t let these dismissals slide. They stand up for themselves and make it known that their achievements are worthy of recognition.

 

9) Disregard for your time

Time is one of the most valuable resources we have. It’s irretrievable, irreplaceable, and incredibly precious. And people with high self-respect understand this better than anyone.

They never tolerate those who don’t respect their time. Whether it’s someone who’s perennially late, cancels plans at the last minute, or monopolizes their time without consideration, people with high self-respect don’t stand for it.

Disregard for your time is a clear sign of disrespect. It signals that someone doesn’t value your time as much as their own.

The Lucid POV What we don't want to find ourselves in is the space of arrogance, elitism, or being a snob. Its a matter of walking a fine line between love and fear. Fear says "I must defend myself" where love says "as a person that loves themselves, I am the steward of my body and soul". It takes courage to stand up for ourselves sometimes, but when we do we are telling ourselves, the other person, and the universe, that we are a sovereign being, and we have value.  We recommend offering up 3 "loving reminders" to whomever is showing disrespect, what you will and will not allow into your space, along with a warning (not a threat) as to what consequences will come about when your boundaries are overstepped. After that you decide on what is the best course of action to take. Is it a new agreement, a break, or the conclusion of your contract? (legal or spiritual). Does it it takes strength, and patience, and time? The answer is "yes" but you wouldn't where you are as a successful holistic practitioner if you didn't have those qualities to begin with.

The good news it, this action comes with benefits. In the short term, you will find that you are stronger than you know. In the long term, you will not find yourself falling down a slippery slope into their terms, or your the pits of your own ego. 

Thanks for reading, and special thanks to the author of this article!

 

 

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